“Nothing kills my faith in humanity like how initially amusing jokes turn into disgusting cultural memes. See “ginger” and “friend zone.” People are so obnoxious there is now an episode of Scrubs that is completely ruined because it introduced the term “friend zone.” And there are still legions of guys who complain that women find men untrustworthy, and spurn their “good” and “nice” advances when… …what challenges MY faith in men the most is when friendliness revealed to hide an ulterior motive. I understand the pain of being attracted to someone and finding out they aren’t. It sucks. But you know what ELSE I understand? I understand the raw hurt that comes from finding out someone only complimented your writing because he was working up a way to ask you out. The shock of finding out that someone’s been saying you’re intelligent because you have nice breasts, but actually thinks you’re vapid. The crushing blow of learning that the guy you’ve been confiding in, that you thought understood and loved you as a friend, only wanted sex. The one guy I ever loved broke it off with “I’d rather be friends.” I cried all night. It didn’t hurt a tenth as much as that, though. You think you know pain? That the “Friend Zone” hurts? Fuck you. Try living in the zone where you’re valued only for fuckability. Believe me, the friend zone is far preferable to not being able to trust someone to be a real friend. If your response to my last rant is “Respect manpain, that some guys lie doesn’t make wanting to be just friends acceptable behavior”… Know that you’ve implied that someone who wants to be friends rather than lovers is behaving inappropriately, and that makes you an asshole. That is outright saying that the only acceptable behavior for a woman is to say yes to sex. Which is not consent.”